Demi Lovato is outspoken and living her best life. She also wants to warn people about insecurities they might not face. This was her intention with a recent set of Instagram stories.
The former Disney star sent out two posts warning others about complimenting people for losing weight. It could trigger other fears about appearance. She realizes that intentions are “pure,” but the hurt is also very real.
Lovato went on to say that it can cause a person to worry about what people thought about them before the weight loss. No matter the intention, it can still leave someone overthinking a compliment all night.
Idk who needs to hear this but complimenting someone on their weight loss can be as harmful as complimenting someone on their weight gain in regards to talking to someone in recovery from an eating disorder.
If you don’t know someone’s history with food, please don’t comment on their body. Because even if your intention is pure, it might leave that person awake at 2 am overthinking that statement…
Does it feel great? Yeah, sometimes.
But only to the loud ass eating disorder voice inside my head that says “See, people like a thinner you” or “If you eat less you’ll lose even more weight.”
But it can also sometimes suck because then I start thinking “Well, damn. What’d they think of my body before?”
Moral of the story:
I am more than the shell for my soul that is my body and everyday I fight to remind myself of that, so I’m asking you to please not remind me that that is all people see of me sometimes.
Demi Lovato recently came out as non-binary and received a flood of support. There are some detractors, like WWE Hall of Famer Road Dogg, but he is in a vocal minority. Lovato is used to critics, and it seems that she can be her worst critic as well. It just goes to show that you never know what you’re really saying until someone interprets it for you.
Did Demi Lovato’s statement make you reconsider complimenting someone? Sound off in the comments!